Today’s thought: There’s a transformative power in thanking the “yackety-yack” — the inner self-talk that often stops us in our tracks.
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Hey there. It’s Kristen again, and welcome to Day 4 of Love Thyself: 30 Ways, 30 Days.
You know, yesterday I talked about yackety-yack, or Mr. YY, as a good friend of mine calls it. And yackety-yack is that kind of internal critic, that voice inside of us or that … it’s kind of like a cross between a voice and a feeling, right, and it’s this thought pattern that really kind of keeps circulating, keeps playing in our heads. It’s a tape, it’s thought gremlins, or whatever you might want to call it. It’s not fun, and it’s not pleasant, and it can feel really hurtful to us or really painful to us to hear that loop of kind of negative, and critical, self-talk.
So, what I wanted to kind of throw out there today is to ask a question and say: What if, what if you, when you hear that kind of internal critic starting to yack at you inside, what if you actually thanked it? Now, yesterday I offered a suggestion to say, you know, Thank you for sharing. And that’s definitely one way that you can approach it, or kind of deal with it, is to say, Thank you so much for sharing. You know what, I recognize that you’re there, but I’m going to go ahead and do what I feel led to do, or what I feel inspired to do. I’m going to do it anyway. Thank you, but I’m going to do it anyway.
Or — or and — what if you said thank you? Because, ultimately, I believe that that voice is trying to protect us. It may not seem that way because it’s so painful, and it’s kind of inconceivable in a way to thank it. I remember the very first time that a good friend of mine suggested that to me. You know, she said, “Have you thought of or tried thanking it?” And I remember, kind of … I was standing in my driveway at the time, we were on the phone, and I remember just kind of feeling stunned because I remember thinking to myself, Why would I thank something that feels so painful? And she gently reminded me that it’s trying to protect me. And when I thought about that, I was like, you know, there’s a lot of truth to that — both the protection piece and the thanking it piece.
And as soon as I did that, in that moment when I got over my shock, I went ahead and thanked it — you know, thanked that internal critic. And it was amazing, because what happened was I could feel in my body a release. It was like a letting go, and whatever had been holding on so tightly that was trying to protect me from whatever it was that I was about to do — that felt like it was … to it, it was like me jumping off a cliff — it just eased, and I breathed, and it was like, wow. And even as I tell you that right now, I feel like I have goose bumps all over my body.
So, I don’t know if that’ll be helpful to you or if you’ll have a similar kind of experience of releasing and letting go. I hope that you do, and I hope that if you do go ahead and try that with your own yackety-yack — your own internal critic, your own voice, whatever inside of you, please let me know how it goes. Comment below, like, share if it’s meaningful to you, or if it resonates in some way.
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