Today’s thought: The “yackety-yack” that tries to hold us back may actually be a sign to move forward.
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Hey there. It’s Kristen again. Welcome to Day 3 of Love Thyself: 30 Ways, 30 Days.
Today I would like to share a story with you, and it’s around something that you probably can relate to.
Several years ago I was invited to deliver the message at the Sunday service at my church. The minister was going to be away, and she asked me to do the whole kit and caboodle — to not just deliver the Sunday message, but really to do the whole service. And that was my really first experience delivering a message that really was meaningful to me, and probably the first experience I can remember where I really stood up in front of a group of people and needed to deliver that. And not only that, but to, like I said, be responsible for the whole service.
So I went ahead and said yes, and I said yes very quickly. And I almost had that kind of experience like I wanted to look over my shoulder and say, you know, Who said yes? Because if I were in my right mind, I don’t think I would have said yes. But I did. And there was a part of me, I believe, that knew that that was exactly what I needed to do. However, from the moment I said yes to the moment that I stood up on that platform in front of folks at that church on that Sunday, I had the worst what I call yackety-yack that I think I have ever had.
And the yackety-yack to me is that internal-critic voice that you hear. It’s the kind of thing where if you get an inspiration to do something and you’re really excited about it and then, you know, you start thinking about it and, you know, that voice — “voice” — kind of says to you, Well, you know, you don’t really have the time to do that right now, or You don’t really have the money, it’ll be too expensive. Or Oh, you can’t do that for this reason or that reason. I think you know the voice that I’m talking about. And it was relentless, and it was even vicious. I mean it said things to me like, Who in the world do you think you are? (That’s a nice way to put it, how it said it.) You can’t do this. Why do you think anybody’s going to want to listen to you?
I mean, you name it. What I found when I stood up on that platform was that I was in my element. People were engaged, they were not falling asleep in their seats. They had their eyes open. They were looking at me, they were paying attention, and some people were even leaning forward in their seats. And afterwards when they offered feedback and their appreciation, it felt very genuine and very sincere.
So, what I learned from that was not only that I am capable, but also that I’m capable of doing something like that, right — because, until that point, I hadn’t really — but also that that internal critic that we hear and that wants to try to stop us from doing things is really … it’s not trying to stop you. In a way, it’s almost a sign that that’s exactly what you need to be doing. And what happens a lot of times is we do let it stop us. We do let it kind of make our enthusiasm deflate like a balloon around something. And we listen to it and we think, You know, yeah, you know, you’re right. Or we probably say to ourselves, You know, you’re right. I don’t really have the time to do that now, or it probably would be more difficult, and it just stops us in our tracks.
So, the thought that I want to offer to you today in loving yourself, on this journey of loving yourself, is when that voice comes up again inside of you, that inner critic … some people like to call it gremlins, and I call it yackety-yack. A good friend of mine has kind of taken that and calls it “Mr. YY.” So, when Mr. YY comes up, you know, just realize that you could stop dead in your tracks, but it’s probably a sign that whatever you’re thinking about doing really is for you to do rather than for you not to do.
So, that’s my thought for today. Before we wrap up I do want to offer you a free gift from me to you, and that is an hourlong strategy session to help you gain clarity around whatever you’d like to gain clarity around in your life. So, if you’d like to take me up on that offer, which I would love for you to do, please message me here on Facebook. Or, if you happen to be seeing this through my website, go ahead and click the Contact tab, shoot me a note, I’ll get back to you, and we’ll set up a time.
So, thanks again for being here today. And I just want to tell you, in case nobody has told you today, you are wonderful. When you hear that inner critic, say, “Thank you so much for sharing.” And whatever your thought is that you want to do or be in this world, it is absolutely, positively worthwhile and will contribute to the good in the world.
So, thanks so much, and I’ll see you tomorrow.