If there’s anything you’d like to adjust about yourself or in your life, here are two ways to help you get started.
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Well, hey there. It’s Kristen. Welcome to Day 28 of Love Thyself: 30 Ways, 30 Days.
Today, I’d like to talk about change. And if you, like me, are the kind of person who recognizes and is willing to recognize that you’re not perfect, that there are some things that you don’t do very well, that there are some things that, you know, you’d like to change about yourself, you know, or some ways that you don’t show up in the way that you’d like to, or respond in the way that you’d like to, that is a wonderful quality to have. It’s wonderful to be able to recognize that we’re not perfect, that we’re not always right. I think, though, what can sometimes happen is that if we recognize our imperfection, we can sometimes recognize it a little too much — in that we may start to focus on what we don’t do well, and keep focusing. And if we find this that we need to fix, then oh, we find that that we need to fix. And it can get us on this kind of train to nowhere.
So, my suggestion here today is twofold. One is to focus. It’s a shift of the mind, really. And to consciously — when you find yourself kind of on that path or on that train of thinking toward what you’re not doing well or, you know, how you’re not succeeding, or whatever it may be — whatever your train of thought is, kind of, toward that imperfection, we’ll say — consciously make the shift to focus, to flip it around, to flip it on its other side, if you will, and say, “What do I do well here?”
Find something that you do well. Find something that’s a strength. Find something that’s an actual resource for you rather than focusing on what you don’t have, what you don’t do well, what you feel like you can’t do. Choose where you put your attention, choose where you put your focus, and find the things that are strengths and positives and resources. This is not just wishful thinking. This is an actual practical exercise that leads to shifts in our thinking. And from that place is where we can start to make changes.
And change is the second thing that I wanted to talk about today. You know, it’s not about making big shifts, necessarily. You know, sometimes in life we’re required to kind of take a leap, a leap of faith, a big shift, make a big change. But more often, in day-to-day life, it’s the small changes that add up to make the big difference. It’s those small shifts in our thinking, it’s the small shifts in what we’re doing and how we’re doing it — it’s the small additions, those things that we want to add in. It doesn’t have to be this big change.
So, my suggestions, again, are shift your focus, and do it consciously. And you’re probably gonna find that you have to do it a lot consciously, because our minds are kind of geared toward a particular way of thinking. And to shift our thinking just takes that kind of awareness and that repetition. And then also to look at those small changes.
And I highly recommend that you have somebody to support you as you do this. You know, we can do it on our own, and oftentimes it can be really challenging to do on our own. It goes much easier and more smoothly and often more lovingly when we have a support.
So, that’s the thought for today. Thank you so much for joining. I look forward to seeing you next time.
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Thank you so much! I’ll see you next time.