Love Thyself: 30 Ways, 30 Days — Day 22

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We’re all teachers. How we do that makes a big difference not only for ourselves, but also in our relationships.

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Well, hey there. It’s Kristen. Welcome to Day 22 of Love Thyself: 30 Ways, 30 Days.

Today what has been on my mind is the idea of teaching. You know, it’s come up a lot in my conversations recently with some people. And, as I usually like to do, I have really spent some time with that idea. I like to sit with words and phrases and colloquialisms and things that some of us just kind of take for granted in understanding, or being a native speaker of a language, say, and really having an understanding of what a word means or a phrase means. And, you know, at least we think we know, right, or we have an idea, that we already have a perception, we already have a thought about what that means.

But I, again, I like to sit with it and, so, I’ve been sitting with the concept and the idea of teaching. And, you know, to me the best teachers are the ones who share. They don’t necessarily set themselves up as a teacher as in being above a student. They really more share one-to-one, right, and they could be … it could be … one-to-many. But it’s kind of more this willingness to be open, to be vulnerable, to share of his or her time and energy and wisdom and knowledge and experience and, kind of, bring all of who that person is to it — all of who he or she is — and share that in a way that is not above anyone else.

I think the best teachers are the ones who guide you back to yourself — who don’t think that they have anything to put into you … more that they offer a way, you know, they offer information. They offer, you know, again, experience — kind of like a guide on a journey, if you will. So, there’s an imparting of information, certainly. There’s an imparting of wisdom and knowledge and all of that. And yet it … to me, again, the best teachers are the ones that … who guide you back to yourself with the information that they’re offering.

So they are also the ones, I think, who live what they teach, right. I mean, we’re all teachers. We all … when we step out into the world, every day, we are teachers by our actions, by our words, by our way of being. We’re teachers at home with our families and our loved ones. You know, anytime we interact with someone else there’s … we’re teaching … and there’s kind of this flow, I think, in teaching. There’s a giving, there’s a giving and a willingness to offer, and then there’s also a willingness on the part of somebody receiving the information to take it in, right. And, again, I think the best teachers are the ones who recognize that the other that they are offering information to is just as much a teacher as the one who’s “teaching” in that instance — and that other has a wealth of resources and information and strengths and wisdom and knowledge and experience to also share, maybe in other ways.

But there’s kind of this recognition of equality, of balance. There’s an honoring of the other rather than a thinking, “Oh, you don’t know that, so here let me teach you.” You know, I’ve come across this dynamic interpersonally, sometimes, where I feel like, OK — there’s information that I need to know, but the way that it’s being offered to me is kind of from that place of that person kind of being above, right, and offering me information that I don’t have because I’m a little bit lesser than. It’s almost like this dynamic of, you know, teachers often stand up in front of a classroom, right, so they’re kind of exalted — they’re in the front. Or, if you’re at a seminar, the teacher is often — the speaker — is often up on a stage, on a platform, so quite literally raised up.

So there can be this dynamic, I think, of one person being wiser — one person being the “knower” and the other person being the “not knower,” and it can just be a very challenging dynamic to move through. So, my thought for today is about when we teach in our daily lives, as we go about our daily lives and we are teaching, maybe we can think of it more as sharing, right — sharing of ourselves, our time, our wisdom, our energy, our knowledge, and sharing with another, again, who is as equally capable of teaching by sharing as we are.

So that’s my thought for you for today. If you have any comments, anything you’d like to share, please do so here on Facebook or in comments below. And, before I close, I would like to offer you a free gift, which is an hour of my time for a strategic coaching session that’s designed to help you gain clarity around whatever you’d like to gain clarity with in your life right now, or even to find a path forward through whatever you’re experiencing.

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Kristen Quirk

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