Love Thyself: 30 Ways, 30 Days — Day 18 (P.S.)

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As a follow-up to Day 18, about giving what you’d like to receive, here are two additional thoughts to keep in mind and heart.

If you prefer reading to watching, here’s the transcript:

Well, hey there. It’s Kristen, and today is actually Day 19. But before I get into Day 19, I have a little P.S. or an addendum to Day 18, which was about giving what we would like to receive. And in giving it, you know, not only is giving the other side of the receiving coin, but it’s also a way to have the experience of that which we desire to have in our lives.

So, the P.S. thought is this: In the giving, do it freely, without expectation of return, without it fitting into any expectations that we have in a relationship. In other words, you know, keeping a scorecard — if I give this to you, then, you know, my expectation is that I’m going to receive it in the same manner, or whatever.

You know, that really interrupts and interferes with the flow of giving, and kind of defeats the purpose almost. You know, we’re giving not to receive but for the experience of giving, which is also the experience of receiving. So, it sounds like it’s a little circular, but when you experience it — when we experience it — you know, it becomes clear, I think, at that point. So, the suggestion is give without thought of receiving.

And also, you know, often if we feel like we’re not receiving something that we desire in a relationship and we feel that we have already given in that situation to the best degree that we can — sometimes, if we give in other situations, then we can have the experience there of receiving what we would like to receive. So, for example, if you’re at home and you feel like you have given ’til you’re exhausted or just kind of feel like you’re full out of giving at home, in relationships at home, you know, maybe your experience of giving could be when you’re out at the store and, you know, someone in front of you is having a bad day. If you’re in line at the store and someone turns around and just kind of wants to talk for a minute, or kind of just talk about what they’re experiencing, and you just kind of stand there and rather than look away or say “This isn’t my problem,” you just kind of stand there and just listen. Just be present. Or, you know, maybe at work you can just give, offer a little bit more of yourself to someone or something.

So, it doesn’t necessarily have to be in the situation where you’d like to receive it, because often when we give we receive not from where we gave, but from unexpected places. So, that is the long and winding P.S., which was meant to be brief. I hope you’re having a fabulous day, wherever you are, and I’m going to go ahead and stop this recording and start again with Day 19.

So, thanks so much for listening, and I will see you next time.

Go to Day 19 of Love Thyself: 30 Ways, 30 Days

Kristen Quirk

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