Today’s topic: Embracing all parts of ourselves.
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Well, hey there. It’s Kristen, and welcome to Day 14 of Love Thyself: 30 Ways, 30 Days.
Today my thought is about the phrase that you’ve probably heard, you know, you can’t love someone else until you love yourself, or you can’t really love somebody else until you love yourself. And, you know, that came to mind earlier this morning. I was thinking about this idea of loving myself. I had read something this morning in a book that’s really meaningful to me, and it’s put out by the Shanti Christo Foundation. It’s called “The Way of Mastery,” and if I were stranded on a desert island and I could only bring one book, that would be it.
So, I was reading in there and really kind of meditating on what I read. And, often what I’ll do is I’ll open to a page and, you know, more often than not what is on the page is exactly what I needed to read that day. So, today’s thought was about embracing ourselves, and what about ourselves are we not willing to embrace and to love, and why are we withholding our love from that part of ourselves. And then the exercise kind of leads you on to thinking about, you know, a situation or a person and how we’re withholding our love from that person.
So, the thought that came to mind in relation to that was this: You can’t truly love someone else until you love yourself. And I think, often — especially when we are the type of people who are givers, you know, we really give and we offer ourselves and, you know, we may be nurturers — it can be easy to continue to focus on what we need to do for other people, which is valuable, don’t get me wrong about that. But what are … how are we nurturing ourselves? How are we really loving ourselves? And I find that this process of loving myself, I know for me, it’s a process, and there are layers of it, and it’s an ongoing thing. You know, I didn’t wake up one day and just say, “I love myself.” I woke up one day, certainly, and said, “Wow, I really feel love for myself more than I have before” or “Wow, you know, it feels like it’s a little deeper” or “You know, there’s another aspect to it — it’s a little broader, a little deeper, a little more accessible,” maybe.
Those kinds of things happen. But it’s not just a … one day I wake up, like I said, and it’s there. So, that thought for today: For you, what is it about you, are there aspects, are there qualities that you have, or parts of yourself, or do you have moments that you don’t really like when you think about loving yourself? How can you embrace those? How can you just let them be? How can you bring them into the fold of your acceptance and your self-love?
You know, the idea of loving ourselves … it’s not about loving ourselves because we’ve done something, or we’ve achieved something, or we have something — we have a relationship, or we have a thing, or whatever. It’s this … you know, can we can we look in the mirror … can you look in the mirror and say that, you know, look into the eyes of the person that’s there and honestly say that you love that person, you know, and see the beauty that’s there?
One of the hardest things, I remember — it was probably 10 or 15 years ago — somebody invited me to stand in front of a mirror and look into my own eyes. And I had the hardest time doing it at that point. It was so hard. And she was firm. She said … because I looked away — I couldn’t do it — and she she was firm with me and she said, “Don’t do that to yourself.” You know, “Don’t you do that.” And it took a long time for me to be able to look into my own eyes and to think, Wow. I love you. I love the person who’s looking back at me.
So, today I invite you to, again, think about the parts of yourself, the aspects of yourself, or situations where you don’t feel that love for yourself. I invite you to look in the mirror. You know, the mirror work, as Louise Hay calls it, is a very powerful thing to do.
So, I feel like these are a series of random thoughts, but wanted to connect with you and offer what was on my mind today and on my heart. And if anybody hasn’t told you yet today, I want to say that I believe in you. I believe that you are worthy. I believe that you are worthy of love and of all of the desires of your heart. You are lovable and loving, and I think our task on a daily basis is just to let that be more and more — to accept that and embrace that more and more for ourselves every day.
So, I hope you’re having a wonderful day, and I look forward to connecting with you again. I also want to offer you a gift, from me to you, and that is an hourlong strategic coaching session. And it’s really a combination of strategy and intuition in ways that I can’t always predict how those things come together. But one of the things that I love to do, and that I’m good at doing, is just kind of jumping in with you wherever you are on your path, listening deeply, and offering the insight and the intuition that comes — and, you know, combined with strategic, proven kind of techniques and methods and things like that that help you gain some clarity.
So, if you’d like to take me up on that, please feel free to message me here on Facebook. Again, I hope you have a wonderful day, and I will see you next time.